Prof. Henya Shanun-Klein, Ph.D., FTPsychologist, Thanatologist and Author
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erev vav betevet On the 14th anniversary to Gili’s Death (vs. On the 10th anniversary
31/12/2003 15:49:18
:Coping differently
Emotionally: Pangs of pain rather than continuous / constant hurt • Cognitively: I distract myself now from ‘death’ thoughts with greater ease
Behaviorally - Socially: Milestone - mobilizing pain through movement – NIA, walking, dancing, exercising; Capable of expressing pain through dance and music: - Allowing my body to speak - Allowing my muscles to dance (Helen: until now –I exercised; now – allowing myself to be, a state of being) - Dieting; total physical change – finding my old-new self – younger more energetic body and self images - New daily schedule - Reconnecting with life through socializing; volunteering Explanations: Matured in my grieving • Grief internalized, not an outside entity any longer but rather intertwined in the ‘fabric’ of my being like background ‘noise’ • Different perspective of myself grieving, my grief, my relationships with Gili
Mom’s verbal Will on her death bed : “live! It’s your time now!” gave me the permission I needed to start focusing on myself and live • Mom’s death and the death of my pets, freed me of responsibilities
Shift in focus – from professional / care taker of others to personal / care of self
Less ‘worries’ about Gili: She is not ‘alone’ since grandma is with her •
Reasons to live for: - prospects for a relationship with a man; - Jessica’s birth – Shai –Rebecca; - Renewal in going back to school – intellectual stimulation; expansion of professional skills and new direction - Rice University; • My spiritual search led to a broadened perspective of professional and personal purpose – a more stable balance between Inward and Outward Steps • My professional work (clinical, publications, website, and instruction) has been rewarded by positive reactions of clients, readers, web surfers, and participants.